I was Raised!
I wasn’t just brought up….
It took a long time for me to realize how important it is to raise your kids (and not just produce them). At the same time, raising a child is not a walk in the park.
The more people I met, I found that not everyone are raised in the same manner. Some are just brought up, while some just grow up physically. Just because you are polite, or you have a kind or big heart, it doesn’t necessarily mean that others should be mirroring your personality. I realized this fact very late in my life. Nevertheless, I am proud of the way I was raised by my parents. I have been taught to treat the janitor with the same respect as the CEO. And I have been following this ever since I remember.
As you get older (not necessarily old), you find that things you learnt by seeing your parents or taught by them has an impact in the long term of one’s life. A child learns more by watching what parents do than what parents tell the child to do. Showing works better than telling. And that’s where I have learnt many things without being told much. What one needs to understand is that in today’s world, you cannot raise a child on the basis of how one was raised by their parents, because those parents had raised and prepared their children for a world that no longer exists!
And now when I’m gradually walking into my 32nd year on this earth, I know for a fact that if I was not raised the way I have been raised, I would have given up on my life completely. My parents have been really patient and extremely kind to me. They have never responded in negative to anything I have said or asked, instead, they have only shown concern and care by saying to be aware of the consequences (if there are any) of whatever decisions or choices I make in my life.
Presently, I’m in a space where I have made utmost peace with the reality of my personal (not professional!) life being stagnant, owing to the marital cases that have been going on since 2.5yrs. And if I could remain calm inspite of so many crests and troughs during the legal tussle (till date), credit does go to the way I was raised to a certain extent. I’m saying this because the World has become a scary place to live in right now. There is so much negativity in and around that sometimes I really wonder how can people be so revengeful towards others for no reason. What happened when they were growing up that made them turn into such horrible people? Was it them or should their parents be held responsible who moulded (or may be didn’t mould them in the right manner) them into such people? Or were they neglected and ignored in their childhood so much by the parents that turned them into immature adults?
Sometimes I try really hard to get inside their tiny little heads just because I want to know why, how and what makes someone to act in an unforgivingly negative manner. Are such people just produced (and not raised) by their parents? And as in most of the cases, my questions too are left unanswered!
